reality of the self bites

Try a little more objectively to see myself and my shortcomings. In recognising these, I can also find solutions. "oh what a posoined gift tae gi oss, if we could see ourselves as others see us"

The freddy files have concentrated too much on the one side situational factors, while on the other handthe paranoic, deep dwelling doubts and uncertainties. The latter is least constructive in building a future.

1) pride, bloody mindedness, preciousness, snobbiness, reluctance, stubborn, neophobia

2) lazyness, reluctance

3) avoidance of taking respobsibility

4) failure to value things, people, ...also failure to capitalise or actually exploit

5) lack of assertiveness, bullied, bullying back

6) concentration, memory, vagueness, learning detail, one-ear-out-the-other etc.

7) Disrespect for authority; resentment; immature


Ok in reverse order, let me fish out some positives and actions

7) Disrespect for authority.

This is all the usual crap I have and I have written that just like the victim attracts the serial killer, so do I attract the overbearing boss and worse, bring out bullying behaviour.

Ok, so the positive is that I like discussion, common goals, agreement in forehand and team work while having a high degree of autonomy to get on with my own function. This is at odds with working for all the jim legges, john o'keefes and hellebusts of the world.

They have their own little control freak or pepper-pot worlds and many people just can't tolerate them. On the other hand many people can be assertive with them and both stand their ground and bend when they know it works, while also charming them all the more.

SOLUTION : Avoid owner-director day-to-day management ...work with people you like....get out of jobs far quicker when it is shit...stick with a good job and team when you are in. Be more assertive and lay the ground rules earlier, even in interview, with dominant personalities.

A commonality to:

1,2,3,4,6: SOme kond of vagueness and inability to think objectively. Unavble to get a stream of assertive tho0ught going which is not dominated by some stubborn emotional reluctance to 'comply'

This one I don't quite have a handle on, but the cure is perhaps more tangible. Prepare, plan, expect and most of all be an active driver of my own working day, environment and most importantly tasks and development.

Avoiding ambushes and being proactive would have really helped me out in all my agency jobs, such that I would hav e made a really, really good account manager instead of a good one.

The key thing here is a dichotomy in fact-

A: Motivation - involvement, positive spirit, determination to see it through and deliver

B: Taking it too seriously - lacking humour and objectivity


With A I have been able to see that I am so little motivated to do sales to people who don't want to be sold to that this is not going to work ...in a cold calling type job where I am on the ground. Not to say that I should throw out the baby with the bathwater....which I was prepared to do this month! In other words, there is a lot to save from my years in sales- if I have more esteem in the situaion --as a boss or as a valued supplier!

B: hey, make some about work, write them down...talk about THE situation and not worry about my performance in that. ( that was a good one actually! MAN ON FIRE!!!)

Focusing on being motivated...by havijng goals in work and what that work does for my private life is key. Those goals must comand my motivation and pull out my "13 hour on the mainsheet"

MOTIVATION is the key - OF COURSE- but of course being so bloody esoteric as me means that it is hard to have goals doing something I don't relate to.

With 3 ) failure to value

This is the tough one which relates to all that shit which other people give me to do whcih sucks. Fireproof cabinets in Gøteborg.. the atlantic beer club.

CURES AS THEY RELATE TO THE CAREER SITUACE


i) Find something I am interested in

ii) define personal goals

iii) assert tasks, responsibilities and areas of authority

iv) know the shitty hoops , the data systems, admin etc and spend time to learn them!

v) define low hanging fruit, quick wins and longer term personal strategies in the job.

vi) make good to do lists- plan your work and work your plan!! Spend a lot of time on this because it pays dividends.

vii) take 'T'- time out to be objective, walk away. Prioritise, clear the decks and get head over water

viii) Offer to take responsibility! And when you do take it for something visible, FOLLOW THROUGH!

I think this will really help. At home already Io notice that if I just have some time for me then I am much more motivated to play with the kids and get them through the daily with some fun!

I think these cures will really help- I know I am slowly drifting to fixits for many but you know, I need to either get a career on track or get a local possibility.

ENDS!